I have always admired people who have well-decorated homes, similarly people especially adept at accessorizing.
My apartments tend to be spartan, to the point of 'dude who doesn't care about style or design', as one friend described. This is quite ironic and unexpected considering my strong predilection toward art and culture. Similarly, my wardrobe can be described as minimal with hints of sport and punk.
Chalk it up to the fact that I move a lot (six apartments, four cities, two countries in two years); attachment style (avoidant), Myers Briggs personality (spiritual N versus more materialistic S types); a certain ratio of testosterone to estrogen (sexism); desire to be viewed as cool, rational, serious, modern, intellectual and therefore unadorned, in so much that decor and accessories connote frivolity; enlightened attitude toward consumerism; that said---a dearth of options when it comes to affordable and unique objects (near non-existent vintage markets/estate sales); uninspired cookie-cutter Chinese apartment layouts; nomadic aspirations; hippie anti-fashion San Francisco upbringing; mother brought up under a Japanese influenced education system emphasizing order and cleanliness; fear-induced paralysis; imagined judgment (narcissism?); banal laziness---likely a combination of the aforementioned.
But I decided 2017 is the year of courage.
[An aside: Interestingly, I looked up the difference between courage and bravery and discovered there is indeed a philosophical one.
"Courage and bravery are generally considered as synonyms. Philosophically, they differ in meaning. Courage involves the presence of fear, while bravery lacks it. Courage entails a cause- commonly love, passion, compassion, concern, etc. Bravery maintains its essence even without a cause. Courage is a result of mindfulness. It is one’s decision to fight despite frightful consequences. Bravery is an inherent characteristic. It doesn’t involve much thinking and rather manifests itself second to human nature for those who have it." Source.]
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What does your dream room look like? Amazing light, all-white, very Mediterranean in spirit.
What’s the one thing every apartment should have? Plants, plants, plants and light!
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The last two sentences come from an article in the Real Cool People Real Cool Apartments section of Man Repeller. They struck me as a description of what my ideal apartment decor might look like. In the absence of the ability, and indeed courage, to envision my own hopes and dreams, I will attempt to start by borrowing from those I admire.
To living courageously.